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- I'm nineteen years old and learning as I grow, trying to recover from a broken heart, trying to find myself again.
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8 comments:
Especially on rainy days.
Maybe you can find a rare snuggle-buddy.
But of course most guys would rather then become fuck-buddies.
Sounds good as long as it's not a longing to snuggle with Jake. How insane women can be about abusive men.
NEWYORK
It's hard to forget the haunting photo that leaked out early last year: Pop star Rihanna, her elegant face bruised and battered after a violent assault by her then-boyfriend, R&B singer Chris Brown.
Now, she's appearing in something else equally shocking: Rapper Eminem's chart-topping "Love the Way You Lie," a song and video that graphically depicts a physically abusive relationship.
Rhianna: "Just gonna stand there and watch me burn," Rihanna sings repeatedly, "But that's all right because I like the way it hurts."
Eminem: "If she ever tries to fuckin' leave me again, I'm'a tie her to the bed and set this house on fire."
Anon - What exactly was abusive about Jake? I don't seem to recall anything abusive about him on this blog.
I think the worst thing Jake ever did was push me away when I went to slap him the other day for finding out he'd moved on.
You can't call that abusive.
He may not have been the best boyfriend ever, but he never abused me.
Perhaps what anon has pointed out here was that Jake has in the end, toyed with the innocent affections, love and emotions of a young lady.
Jake was bored with first lady, played Sixteen like a cello, then dumped her for first lady again. Because Jake showed a tendency to violence as in the street incident with other guys, it is within him to redirect that at anytime like an unstable IED.
Emotional abuse: a form of abuse characterized by a person subjecting or exposing another to behavior that is psychologically harmful. Such abuse is often associated with previous situations of power imbalance, such as… child abuse. Sixteen says Jake was an abused child of a violent father. She is well rid of him before the magic for him wore of and the blows rained down.
SIxteen in her most recent posts, especially bottle throwing shows she has been psychologically/ emotionally abused.
Sixteen - One thing I'll clarify, I'm not trying to defend Jake here as I am certain that at the least he was insensitive. But in the grand scheme of breaking up with girlfriends by people between the age off 18-22 he was pretty damn good about it compared to most. That is the perspective I'm coming from here.
Anon - Yes, I'm sure it was all a master plan thought out months, no, YEARS ahead off time! Seriously though, ever considered that he's just a very young guy unsure of his feelings? I know the conspiracy theory is more fun for you, but reality is much much simpler.
As for her bottle throwing, it proves no such thing. I'm not saying Sixteen is crazy, but that action was a moment of nuttiness. Everyone is capable of overreaction in life, this was just one such example. You are going to need to provide some evidence of abuse, emotional or otherwise, before it becomes more than a symptom of your own jealousy.
You are going to need to provide some evidence of abuse, emotional or otherwise, before it becomes more than a symptom of your own jealousy. Reflex
Reaction to emotional abuse can be varied but thanks to Reflex himself ironically for summing it up nicely:
No, this wasn't healthy… you are acting like the crazy ex… drunken texts are akin to stalking… you are punishing him for it… Please see the counselor more often, I think you need this… you are legitimately [sic] struggling with your emotions regarding it. You feel discarded, which is a judgement [sic] you are placing yourself…
Sweet Sixteen’s reactions are pretty indicative of a reaction to emotional abuse.
I’ll skip over responding to ReflexVE’s idiocy in symptom of [my] own jealousy.
Uh, by your logic if she acts out it means its somehow his fault and means he *must* have abused her. Somehow skipping by the fact that she may not be perfectly stable.
Following that logic, if he abused her emotionally it must have been because she mistreated him in the relationship, thus forcing him to react to her badly, right?
I mean seriously, your going down this ridiculous rabbit hole? She's responsible for her actions and he's responsible for his. Nothing she has said on this blog has made him seem emotionally abusive, physically abusive, or anything else. Sixteen has never claimed that, at worst she has accused him of being insensitive, which is not exactly an uncommon trait among young people, males especially.
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