Exams are finished (thank God), so I can now freely blog without feeling guilty. Woohoo!
The other night, I was texting a friend, and the subject turned to marriage -or more specifically, weddings. We began to discuss what we wanted our wedding to be like, how big it would be, what you'd wear and so on. I've really only had this discussion with two people, but it's interesting to see what people are into for their weddings.
My friend, we'll call her Lexie, wanted a big wedding in a garden or a cathedral, despite being an atheist. The dress would be simple, with no embroidery, no veil and absolutely NO lace, according to her.
My sister wants a big wedding with about two hundred guests. I never tell her she doesn't know two people. Nor do I tell her that I doubt she'll marry. Sometimes it's best to keep things to yourself. She wants a Monique Lhuilier gown. In fact, I think I can probably find the exact one she wants. Her reception would be at some very large expensive place. All in all it would be very dramatic.
Me? I don't want anything too flash. A quiet wedding, with just my family and close friends. In perhaps a rose garden or courtyard. A string quartet would play Cannon as I walked to my groom. I would want personalised vows, but I'm not sure if I could write anything eloquent enough. My dress wouldn't have to be very flash. I wouldn't want off the rack, but I wouldn't spend thousands and thousands on it. Perhaps something like this. I'd want the reception at a small, intimate restaurant. Once again, nothing too flashy and not too many people. I know that if I had a big wedding, I'd be too busy worrying about everybody else having a good time to enjoy what's supposed to be the best day of your life. The only thing I'm set on is having the photos in the same place my parents had theirs (unless I skip countries, of course), which is in the local park amongst the big tree roots.
What about my faithful readers, however many there are of you. What do you want for your wedding? And if you're already married, what was it like? Did you enjoy it, would you do it differently?
4 comments:
Me, when / if I get married, I don't care what my wedding will be like just . As long as I am with the women I fall inlove with will be enough for me
If we were to anything differently for our wedding we would have eloped. Would have given us another day of honeymoon.
The Fellatio Artist and The Geek
My old friend maried his chinese girl last year it was amazing.
He met her in a paris>shanghai shool arts travel and during two years worked as hell to come back to her one or twice a year.
So they married each other in France, it was in a little house on the mountains... wonderful landscape.
Lolijong made little white paper lanterns with some red chinese words/images (ideograms? dont know in english) on it, and his husband to be and some of his friends made a big paintings maybe 2.5*4 or 5 meters, wich was in the room.
She weared a wonderfull simple dress, white with red poppies and she had flowers in her hair, my friend was handsome I must add. The mayor didn't manage to prononce the name of the bride ^^.
They asked us during the meal to write something we knew about them.
The paper was from old maps symbolizing the distance which was between them. I wrote a litle memory, we were in the street my friend and I and we were playing chinese chess under the electric lights and bugs were traveling on the board and he was speaking of her and his eyes were so bright...
I concluded : I liked this regard, the sound of his voice, this regard she gave him and I thanked her for this. you are lucky . you deserve it.
In the night we sang songs we loved and my friend and I tried to translated them to her.
Amazing memories. Amazing people.
My story now.
Well I am not maried I lack the bride ^^.
First mariage is not a big thing to me, I would not love her more or less after. I hate mariage as a way of saying you belong to me. A french song from Georges Brassens is "la non-demande en mariage" (the non-mariage proposal something like this) it ends like this :
De servante n'ai pas besoin
Et du ménage et de ses soins
Je te dispense
Qu'en éternelle fiancée
A la dame de mes pensées
Toujours je pense
I didn't find an english translation so my personal one:
I don't need a maid-servant
And from household and from these cares
I exempt you.
As an eternal fiancée,
At the lady of my thoughts,
Always I think.
But if she wants to be married, gosh I will marry her, in this state of spirit.
Anyway, I would be talking to her, and we will decide it together, but... I would appreciate a small thing, just the people we care, and I would like to have the songs we like her and I, and oh god... I will certainly sang her (very badly I am afraid) the song I talked precedently. And a Leonard Cohen's song... probably "take this longing"...
"Take this longing from my tongue, all the useless things I've done..."
or "I am your man"
"If you want a lover
I'll do anything you ask me to
And if you want another kind of love
I'll wear a mask for you"
and it would be more awfull because my english sucks... poor lady...
I would organize lot of surprise but I can't say what because it will be done with her in mind.
And I am sure I would be shy as hell and make lot of mistakes... but if I marry her... well it may makes her laugh... so it would be a good thing...
But I lack the bride.
have a good day.
N.
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